The one that got away

Have you ever let the one get away because of what your friends said VS your heart? Both men and women listen to their peers more than their own heart sometimes. I remember when I was dating this guy who I fell for fast because he was amazing! Definitely treated me like a lady every time we went out in public. We had so much in common From class & style to music & food and we both love God and serving people.

He even wiped the sweat off my face with his handkerchief while dancing once. (I melted! Ahhh) I had so much fun during that time I was seeing him.

But I listened to the advice of my girlfriends and I addressed a situation that should have been left alone. but as we adressed it, he pulled back and It stopped us dating so much and less chatting.

Because we are mature adults, we are still friends today because we still interact with same people and theres no emotional feelings between us. (This only works when BOTH don’t have feelings)

For me I realize, I thought he could have possibly been the one, but time apart between distance proved otherwise.

But I often think, what If I had handled the situation differently and he was the one who just got away because I never did let it take it course of time and listened to my friends instead.

I’ll never know. But I will say through that experience, I’ve learned to go with it and pay attention to my own red flags that God shows me.

Maybe this message will help somebody else. It’s good to have friends for support. But make sure when you seeing someone male or female that you follow your own gut instinct, that way you have no regrets. Choose to be a single woman in focus today not just with men choices, but also with listening to advice of friends.

Not sure why I’m writing this maybe it’s to help someone to follow your own path and not the one others thing you should.

Challenge:

When dating be sure to ask questions up front the intentions. Are you dating for purpose or pleasure. Only discuss general information with friends until you fully trust their guidance. Never make decisions off judgement from others but search within your own heart and your own truth about this person.

Make sure you have clarity with the person before your feelings get attached. And yes, you can remain friends if BOTH people agree that no feelings or emotions are still present.

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