CHOOSE to be Single UNTIL
- Robin Shockley
- 2 days ago
- 3 min read

Singles- dont overlook your own DESIRES just because of the love bombing! Men who want you as FIRST Choice will show up and make it known! Even in my frustrated moments, I can’t complain. I have chosen and some men have chosen me. I don’t have to defend myself of what I’ve done for men, as thats how Im built to serve and to give. However, I have had the ultimate treatment necessary by multiple people but just in different forms. Life has been good.
I’ve had men “sing to me songs” on videos of their own voices without me even asking but them just knowing that’s what I love! 🎶💕 I’ve had men cook me dinner, 🥘 buy me tires & fix my car, 🚘 and I NEVER asked. They just did it! I’ve had men take me on lavish trips with no expectation of a personal intimacy , but just friendship building. 🌆
But in the last seven years with all this that’s been told and things not told, NOT once have I had a man follow through with ALL communication consistency & compassion!
Everybody has their own boundaries and their own guidelines and stipulations when they are in search of their future partner for life. Dont forget ladies, YOU get to choose!!! Stop thinking a man chooses you. The bible says a man finds the woman but you have the ability to accept the final say if it’s what you want! So choose wisely!!

There have been moments I search for consistency and parts of the 3 C’s arrives, and there will be a moment that I wasn’t searching and parts of the 3 C’s arrived. Dating & single life isn’t for the weak for sure!
I have stood by these three things communication, consistency & compassion and if it doesn’t show alignment the way that I see fit,
(yes I said it because it’s my life. ) That I’m banking on, It’s a no go and a move on. I’m not married because I cant have anyone - im single because I CHOOSE to be UNTIL the man who gives me believable VISION for a FUTURE arrives!
Anything worth having is an investment!!! But not all men see it this way. So they think the investment comes after the catch. Get in alignment with what you expect and stick to it! And when He arrives, cater to him! Give him everything he desires! Let him know you choose him back! But it’s not alignment when you dont have the 3 C’s on your side.
If your potential man chooses to carry communication, consistency, and compassion, all blended together in one mix it will be difficult to break a bond!
I’m not perfect and I don’t expect perfect. But my experiences have opened my eyes clearly to KNOW what I deserve and desire. And there is nothing wrong with waiting on it!
So while I’m waiting on God to help me make right choices for a Relationship until that ring is on my hand, I am loving ME. And even when it happens, I still will love ME. The only difference is the compliment of a beautiful union will be a God joined masterpiece!

Ladies, if you desire to date with intent for relationship & marriage- dont shift those desires based off the emotions in the moment. Dont try to force it! Because it goes against your desires! And afterall, at the end of the day, it’s YOUR life!!
Signed,
A Single. Woman. In. Focus. Today.
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